How is it that kids always know exactly what to do to drive you insane?
So after 5-6 glorious months during which Owen slept in his bed when told, he suddenly was afraid of the dark and wanted us to lay with him or rub his hair while he fell asleep. Needless to say, we didn't want to open that can of worms so we refused.
We had to lock him in his room to get him to stay there (because otherwise he would just physically fight us to get out) and let him scream for a couple of nights and then he was fine- at least, he started going right to sleep without screaming. However, he slept on the floor right behind his bedroom door, the place where he had screamed himself to sleep.
We let him do that for a month or so, but have recently decided to try to get him back into the bed. I explained to him that I will put a star on the calendar for each day that he stays in bed all night, and when he has a week's worth, he can pick out a toy.
So he stayed in bed like a good boy and got a star.
The very next day, he wouldn't sleep at naptime. Now, in my house, bedtime is not an option, but naptime I am a little more lax on. So long as Owen is in his room playing quietly, I usually don't mind if he doesn't sleep. He goes to bed a little early that night, and typically starts napping again the following day.
However, this is the fourth day without a nap and he really needs them. He's practically falling over by dinnertime, and demands to take a bath and go "ni-ni" as early as 6:30. Then, he wakes up at 5:30 a.m. because he went to bed so early.
So I need this kid to nap. I tried continuously putting him back in bed, but I think it's too controlling for a nap- for nighttime it works, but the whole point of naptime is for me to get something done, not for me to stand by his door and watch to make sure he sleeps.
I make him stay in his room for at least an hour and a half, up to two hours, during which he just plays and talks to himself, and comes out red cheeked and practically falling over because he's tired.
And just as a bonus, he's added the new twist of randomly taking off his pants and peeing on the carpet, less because he has to pee than that he knows he isn't supposed to. I think he resents being stuck in his room and that's his way of taking it out.
I think I will try giving him a time out for carpet peeing, but it's difficult because I usually only find out after the fact, making it less effective.
Anyone have any suggestions? I will not lay with him or nap with him, and I will not stand by the door and watch him- it's a waste of my time.
I have spanked him for getting out of bed in the past, but it was totally ineffective (hence the door locking).
I'll take whatever suggestions you're offering!
I wonder if other parents ever feel disgusted by the little creatures they created. I mean, really, pissing on the carpet like an ANIMAL???? Come on, I know he's three, but Jesus Christ.